Win favor with respect for boundaries: Don’t let the initiative turn into an offense

When chasing a girl, many boys mistakenly think that “the more active the better”, but ignore “respecting boundaries” – such as sending messages frequently, giving gifts without consent, and asking for privacy, these behaviors will make her feel offended and stay away from you. In fact, respecting her boundaries is the key to winning favor, making her feel that “you know how to measure and are reliable”.

When Xiaofeng chased the girl Xiao Min, he was very impatient at first: he sent dozens of messages every day, and even if Xiao Min did not reply, he continued to send them; After learning the address of Xiao Min’s house, he sent a bouquet of flowers downstairs to her house without saying hello. Xiao Min felt very pressured and slowly distanced herself from him. Later, Xiaofeng adjusted his method: when sending a message, he did not ask “why don’t you reply”, if Xiao Min said “busy”, he said “then you are busy first, and then talk about it after you are busy”; If you want to give a gift, you will first ask “I saw a very cute keychain, I think it suits you very well, do you like it”; Never ask Xiao Min’s relationship history and family privacy. Slowly, Xiao Min felt that Xiao Feng was “very measured” and began to take the initiative to chat with him, and even agreed to his invitation.

Respect boundaries Pay attention to “observing her ‘feedback signals'”: if she replies to messages slowly and in a perfunctory tone, reduce the frequency of contact; If she declines your invitation, don’t ask “why” but say “it’s okay, I’ll make an appointment next time I have the chance”; secondly, “don’t force her to ‘change her habits'”, for example, she likes to “stay at home on weekends”, don’t force her to “go out to socialize”, but say “weekend stays are also very comfortable, I recently watched a good movie, I recommend it to you”; Finally, “respect the ‘refusal'”, if she clearly says “I don’t want to do this”, don’t pester, accept it calmly, and make her feel that “you are reliable”. Respect is the foundation of feelings, and boys who know how to measure will make it easier for her to let go of her guard and slowly develop a good impression.