Why is it hard for older girls to chase? The real demands of older girls

In the marriage market, “older girls are difficult to chase” is a common feeling of many men – they are not easily tempted, do not fall in love blindly, have high requirements for feelings, and are not as easily moved by romantic offensives as young girls. In fact, the “difficult to chase” of older girls is never picky or cold, but the rationality and sobriety given by experience and growth. Only by understanding the deep reasons behind it can we truly enter their hearts.

First of all, self-awareness matures, and there is no longer a need to “fall in love to fill the gap”. Most older girls have achieved financial and spiritual independence, with stable jobs, rich social circles and clear life plans. They have gone through the stage of “needing to prove their self-worth through love”, and no longer regard love as the whole of life, but as the “icing on the cake”. A relationship may begin at a young age due to loneliness, curiosity, or the expectations of others, but older girls know better who they are and what they want, and will not fall in love for the sake of love. They will not be easily tempted by a boy who has given him a few gifts or said a few words of love, but will calmly observe each other’s character, three views and attitude towards life. Behind this “uncompromise” is responsibility for their own lives and reverence for feelings – they would rather be single than wronged themselves into a consumable relationship.

Secondly, the emotional needs are clear, and “invalid ambiguity” and “shallow attraction” are rejected. Most older girls have had a love experience, and may even experience hurt or disappointment, they have already seen through the romance and routines on the surface, and their need for feelings is more inclined to “deep fit”. They are no longer satisfied with the shallow interaction of “eating and watching movies together”, but pay more attention to spiritual resonance, value matching and comfort in getting along. For example, they will pay attention to whether boys respect their careers, understand their pressures, and have common future plans, rather than just caring about whether the other person is handsome and whether they will create surprises. For those who just want to be ambiguous, unwilling to be responsible, or have incompatible views and lack sincerity, they will decisively refuse and will not waste time on ineffective socialization. This attitude of “preferring to be lacking rather than indiscriminate” makes many boys who are accustomed to “chasing girls in routines” feel “difficult to chase”, but in fact, they are unwilling to spend energy on feelings that do not meet expectations.

Finally, the energy is distributed rationally, and love is no longer a “priority option”. The lives of older girls are often filled with multiple affairs such as work, career, family, friends, etc., and they have formed a stable rhythm of life and will not easily disrupt their plans for an uncertain relationship. When you are young, you can spend a lot of time with each other and create romance, but older girls know how to balance life and love, and will focus more on self-growth and the current quality of life. They will not give up their work because of a boy’s “I miss you”, nor will they sacrifice their interests and social circle because of the other person’s request. In their opinion, a good relationship should be “mutual achievement”, not “unilateral compromise”. This rational distribution of energy makes suitors feel “difficult to cut into”, but in essence, it is their control over their lives – they will not let love take over their lives, and they also expect the other party to respect their rhythm and choices.

In fact, the “difficult to chase” of older girls is essentially the sobriety of “unwillingness” and the firmness of “being loyal to oneself”. It’s not that they don’t need love, but they need a relationship that is evenly matched, respects each other, and has a soul match. Chasing older girls does not rely on routines and romance, but on the three views of sincerity, responsibility and fit. If you are willing to slow down, truly understand her needs, respect her rhythm, and prove your sincerity with actions, you will find that once they are tempted, they will cherish this relationship more than anyone else and give each other enough trust and companionship.

Love is never “chased”, but “attracted”. For older girls, the best way to pursue is to first make herself a mature, steady, and responsible person, and walk side by side with her true self, rather than trying to “conquer” her with routines. When you understand her rationality and sobriety, and respect her choice and rhythm, love will naturally fall into place.