Introverts’ low-stress indirect pick-up method

Introverts are afraid of rejection and are not good at expressing themselves, so they often dare not strike up a conversation directly. “Indirect pick-up” reduces the pressure of direct dialogue by “creating common scenes, using third-party media, and transmitting implicit signals”, allowing interaction to occur naturally, and is suitable for introverts to easily start picking up conversations.

“Create a common scene” lowers the threshold for interaction, for example, if you see someone you want to talk to in the library, you can choose a seat near the other person to sit down, deliberately drop the pen “accidentally” at the other person’s feet, and when the other party helps pick it up, smile and say: “Thank you so much, I always lose everything.” After that, if the other party is rummaging through a certain book, you can take the initiative to say, “I seem to have seen this book in the XX area just now, do you need me to take you there?” With the help of “small accidents” and “help”, the conversation can be started naturally without deliberately looking for topics.

“Use third-party media” to transmit signals, such as seeing the target object in the gym, you can hand over a bottle of water after the other party has used the treadmill and say, “I saw you running for a long time just now, you should be thirsty, this is for you.” If the other party accepts, you can say: “I am also just starting to exercise, and I can’t always master the rhythm of running, you breathe so steadily when you run, do you have any skills?” Through the methods of “sharing items” and “asking questions”, the interaction has a “media support” and reduces the tension of direct conversation.

“Convey hidden signals” Tentative attitude, such as often meeting each other in the same community, taking the initiative to nod and smile every time they meet, after a few times, if the other party also responds with a smile, you can say at a certain meeting: “We seem to meet often, do you also live in this building?” , avoid the pressure of rejection in the first place.