A ruthless move to hang the appetite of a married man
If the apples on the tree are too ripe, they will fall; If the water in the bucket is too full, it will overflow; The moon is too round and will be missing soon, so many things are not as perfect as possible.
Most of the time, when the water is full, the moon is full, and the extreme must be reversed, and only by being in a golden mean can we maintain a balance.
The same is true for the relationship between the sexes, satisfying a man too much, will only make him lose his freshness in advance, only half full, only by learning not to easily meet the needs of men, can we whet the appetite of men, which is conducive to our handling of feelings, will not be thankless.
In the relationship between the sexes, there are three psychological techniques that satisfy men’s appetites, which women with high emotional intelligence like to use.
1. Learn to use the “28 law”
The so-called “28 law” means that in a matter, the only part that can play a decisive role is the content that accounts for 20%, and the remaining 80% of the content is secondary.
When dealing with relationships, many women will give priority to men’s needs, put each other first, and everything is centered on each other.
They think that if they do this, they will tie to the man’s heart, but the truth is just the opposite, they pay a lot, but the man’s attitude is to ignore it, and even not care.
The reason is that women have paid too much in this relationship, so that in the hearts of men, it has become an established fact that women will not leave themselves, since the ending will not change, paying more or paying less will not affect the ending, so why pay so much?
As emotion expert Zuo Yan said: “When a woman becomes more and more enthusiastic about a man, a man becomes more and more cold to a woman, because a man feels that a woman is no challenge for him, so this is the case.” ”
To learn to use the “28 rule” means that we should spend 20% of our energy on loving ourselves when dealing with feelings, which is the key to our decisive role in dealing with feelings.
Learning to love yourself first, and then learning to love others, this is the secret to our happiness in relationships.
2. Learn to use delayed gratification
Do you ever encounter such a situation?
Seeing the proud figure of the online fitness blogger, we were inspired and decided to become like this, so we spent a lot of money to get a fitness card, but only went twice, and it was idle.
Seeing others making notebooks is very literary, I feel that I can also work in this direction, and some tools such as notebooks, tapes, pens and other tools are ready, so I started for two days and never opened the notebook again.
This is the disadvantage of impulsive consumption, that is, we get what we want without much effort, without time, energy, or even effort.
In life, the computer we buy on impulse and the computer we buy after months of deliberation must care more about the latter than the former, because we pay sunk costs for the latter, while the former does not.
Therefore, in the relationship between the sexes, we should not meet the requirements of men on the spur of the moment, which will only make them think that we will get it easily, and what is easy to get is often not cherished.
And what we have to do is to learn to delay meeting a man’s requirements, it is best to be more reserved, so that the other party does not determine a relationship too easily, and people will only manage it well if they pay, because he is afraid of losing.
3. Learn to retain a sense of mystery
Zhen Huan in the TV series “The Legend of Zhen Huan” can dance the amazing dance, but no one in the palace knows.
So, some people took the opportunity to make things difficult for Zhen Huan, thinking that she couldn’t dance, so that she could make a fool of herself at the banquet, and even the emperor thought she couldn’t dance, so he refused at first, but those with ill intentions were reluctant to give up, and had no choice but to drive the ducks to the shelves.
Who knows, at the banquet, Zhen Huan was dressed in a dance costume, graceful, and amazed the four people with a stunning dance, even the emperor couldn’t hide the surprise in his heart, took Zhen Huan’s hand and said, “How many surprises do you have, I don’t know?”
If the emperor knew that Zhen Huan could dance from the beginning, he might not be so surprised, after all, it was expected.
When we get along with men, don’t tell each other all our information, because if the other party knows us well, then we will have no mystery in the other person’s heart, and naturally it will not arouse the other person’s interest in wanting to understand us.
Luo Zhenyu once said: “The vision of a person who really does things is to grasp the current and future trends in a timely manner, to look at things from different perspectives, and to maintain sufficient possibilities for iteration.” ”
When dealing with relationships, we should also be prepared for danger in times of peace and think about the future, rather than just focusing on whether we are happy or unhappy in the present. Only by maintaining a sense of mystery will we not lose our freshness and stimulate men’s desire to explore.
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