Introverts do not need to be “extroverted” to talk to a strategy that can be easily talked

Introverts often dare not strike up a conversation because they are “afraid of being rejected” and “don’t know what to say”, but in fact, the “attentiveness and sincerity” of introverts are the advantages of picking up a conversation. The core of the low-stress pick-up strategy is to “reduce the intensity of interaction, choose comfortable scenes, and use third-party media”, so that introverts can easily start picking up a conversation without forcing themselves.

Select Low-Stress Scenario to pick up a conversation. Introverts are suitable for talking in situations where they “need help” or “have a common goal”, such as when they can’t find a product in front of a supermarket shelf, say to the person next to them, “Hello, do you know which shelf this laundry detergent is on?” I searched for a long time and couldn’t find it. When queuing, you can say: “Are you also here to buy this Internet celebrity bread?” It was my first time here, so I don’t know which flavor is recommended. This kind of accomplishment based on “help” or “common goal” has weak purpose, less interaction pressure, and is easier for introverts to speak.

Use “third-party media” to start the conversation. For example, if you see the other party with a dog in the pet park, you can say: “Your dog is so cute, what breed is it?” I also have one at home, I always love to demolish the house, how do you usually train it?” At the art exhibition, I saw the other party stopping in front of a certain painting, and I said, “Do you like this painting too?” I don’t know much about art, but I think its color combination is very comfortable, what do you think this painting wants to express?” Third-party media (such as pets, paintings) can be a “bridge” for communication, reducing the tension of direct dialogue and making interaction more natural.

Adopt the “short interaction, slow advancement” mode. Introverts don’t need to pursue a pick-up to add WeChat, but can have a short interaction first, such as after chatting about books in the bookstore, say: “Thank you for your recommendation, I’ll go read this book, and I’ll talk to you next time I have a chance~” The next time you meet again, you can say: “I finished reading the book you recommended last time, it was really interesting, have you read any good books recently?” Through multiple short interactions, slowly build a sense of familiarity, and then propose to add WeChat or invitation, which is less stressful and has a higher success rate. Introverts do not need to imitate the enthusiasm of extroverts, sincerity and care can impress each other more.